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Short-Term Childhood Trauma/Dysfunctional Family Group

      This six month trauma model address intimacy, self stabilization from triggers, education, and core beliefs. The group is ideal for those who are struggling with; relationships, negative coping strategies, depression/anxiety, and negative outlook. Primary focus is on the family system of origin during childhood through inner child awareness work. The group will be exploring in a deep way how childhood is effecting our present lives. Trauma work within a community of equals is extremely nourishing, powerful and effective.

      The group will cover: genogram, brief intimacy work, intimacy tools, deeper than self talk tools, relaxation, psycho-education on trauma and the brain, self care and resources. The group is focused on looking deeply at the family system to explore how early dynamics relate to present problems and stuck places.

Clients who are drawn this group work experience:

Problems of Intimacy
Depression/Anxiety
Negative Coping Strategies
Negative Core Beliefs & Reactions
Isolation/Avoidance
Co-Dependency/Attachment

     The group will be comprised of 6-8 adults who are functioning on the outside but are stuck and open to exploring/wanting something greater.

This group is an excellent resource for those who grew up with: alcoholic, co dependent, shut down, angry, neglectful, emotionally vacant, narcissistic/self centered, reactive, rigid, depressed parents or experienced abuse from outside the family system.

A free 50 minute in person, phone or skype-based consultation is done before admission to the group to make sure group is for you.

Details- Next session is forming for Fall  2017 – $60 per session. Exact day/time TBD.

617 767 8281

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HEALTH PARENTING GROUP

Healthy Parenting Group

The group is for parents who are struggling with their emotions and feelings regarding their parenting in context to their own childhood.

Parents who grow up in dysfunction have great difficulty knowing what is normal and healthy or if their parenting and reactions are right sized.

Example: if you grew up in a family that repressed emotions, there will most likely be a stuck place in your current parenting around the expression of feelings and or helping with your child’s feelings (too much/too little). 

If you have excessive fear, sadness , anxiety, guild beyond appropriate parenting guild, find your self triggered by your kids or situations, find yourself avoiding certain issues, this is a great resource to help reclaim right sized emotions and joy regarding family life.

Some examples of what this results oriented group addresses:

*Managing conflict.

*Good enough parenting.

*Managing reactions and feelings.

*Exploring each parent’s family of origin and what was modeled.

*Healthy v. Unhealthy psycho-education.

*Specific parenting tools.

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Couple’s Group

      Continuing in the model of childhood trauma and family dysfunction work. The couple’s group is comprised of 4 couples who want to experience deeper intimacy and shifts in stuck places & conflict with their partners. It is within the partner relationship that I believe 90% of our unresolved trauma shows itself. Doing the inner child and intimacy work within a partnership is extremely powerful where relationships that can often feel doomed have the opportunity to thrive.

– Education regarding intimacy and how conflict resolution returns us to the heart space.

-Conflict in each person’s family of origin will be explored via genogram work.

-Each couple learns how to use a specific conflict resolution tool and see other couples do the same.

     Examples of intimacy/conflict problems: one partner shuts down in conflict, one overwhelms the other in conflict, unrealistic expectations, unfair criticism, long standing wounds, trust issues, co dependency, silent treatments, control issues, avoidance of conflict, avoidance of anger, boundary problems, intrusive family issues, loyalty problems, coldness, resentments, avoidance of intimacy, communication problems and parenting strife.

A free 50 minute in person, phone or skype-based consultation is done before admission to the group to make sure group is for you.

Details- Forming for Fall/Winter 2018. $60 per session, per person.

617 767 8281

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Men’s Group

       This group consists of 6-8 men who struggle with relationships: (Starting relationships, balance between family life and work life, finding a life partner, parenting or co-parenting, defining themselves in masculinity, problems of intimacy (sexual or non), lack of connection to themselves or others, problems of assertion (too little/too much) negative coping strategies, and conflict resolution. This is an open- ended group exploring current relationship problems and stuck places in context of the family system of origin and dysfunction. Treatment will include:

-Defining and reclaiming positive masculinity and healthy beliefs about relationships.
-Creating new belief systems of self and others.
-Trouble Shooting old/new family dynamics.
-Rediscovering/reinventing personal values.
-Working with Denial and the Family Story.
-28-day programs for changing defeating habits/behaviors and belief systems.

A free 50 minute in person, phone or skype-based consultation is done before admission to the group to make sure group is for you.

Details- Next session is forming for Fall/Winter 2017/2018 – $60 per session. Exact day/time TBD.

617 767 8281

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Finding A Loving Partner Group

       This group consists of 6-8 men and women who struggle in dating and in finding a soul mate. It is ideal for those who find themselves in a consistent stuck place regarding intimacy and or a marked pattern of poor choices.

 Interpersonal exploration and growth regarding the ongoing struggle to find a love connection.

Healthy dating, defining negative patterns and beliefs, setting intentions. What to look for in a partner.

Looking at the family system of origin and see/challenge what was modeled as well as approaching the path from a heal first goal.

A free 50 minute in person, phone or skype-based consultation is done before admission to the group to make sure group is for you.

Details- Next session is forming for Fall/Winter 2017/2018 – $60 per session. Exact day/time TBD.

617 767 8281

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Long Term PTSD & Childhood Trauma Group

      The Healing from Childhood Trauma group is an interactive and supportive healing environment for individuals who are struggling with relationships, coping mechanisms, well being, reactions, and negative beliefs. It is traditionally comprised of four men and four women who are doing well in many parts of their lives but finding themselves stuck in others due to childhood trauma and dysfunctional family dynamics. Ideally it is composed of members who have either completed groups in the past or have done significant trauma work in individual therapy but are experiencing stuckness and patterns.

Genogram
Intimacy Work
Working Through Triggers
Experiential Work
Trauma Processing
Dialoging Workshops
Behavioral Programs for Lasting Change

A free 50 minute in person, phone or skype-based consultation is done before admission to the group to make sure group is for you.

The group is an excellent resource for those who grew up with: alcoholic, co dependent, shut down, angry, neglectful, emotionally vacant, narcissistic/self centered, reactive, rigid, depressed parents or experienced abuse from outside the family system.

Details- Next session is forming for Spring 2018 – $60 per session. Exact day/time TBD.

617 767 8281

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15032310_10209805369624047_8453660211071099372_nThe Boston Globe interviewed me today about offering pro bono rage work to the community. I am hopeful that the word gets out as I think people could really benefit from validation and release given the election tensions.

I am opening up my practice for pro bono 15 minute sessions for people to scream it out and hit the bag. It is non violent and safe. Non violent meaning that the upset doesn’t get directed at another human being. 

My practice is focused on childhood trauma and a large piece of that is doing rage work to process and or awaken repressed feelings. Hitting the bag is an excellent and safe resource to group and stop the fight/flight/freeze cycle. It is very cathartic and grounding and I think people need it right now.

I am extending this into 11/17, 11/18, and 11/21. Please contact me.

 

 

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I wanted to share this amazing for interview on Brene Brown. I love her take on that when we are forthright with people about what is ok and what is not- we are less triggered and in our inner child about resentment/expectations.

We are more authentic which means to me- we have more room for real compassion. In my experience, when we act from this graceful truth, we are truly our authentic selves.

Click the youtube link below!

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ecb6ExBaW80

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Happy Late Winter and Early Spring…very early spring!

I am currently forming 3 groups in my practice.

Feel free to call or email me for detailed literature on each.

 

 

Group 1– 18 week Brief Trauma group for adults who grew up in an alcoholic household. ACOA influenced. I currently have 4 spots open out of 8. (First installment)

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This short-term 18 week trauma model address interpersonal intimacy, self stabilization from triggers, education on trauma and dysfunctional family systems, and core beliefs. The group is ideal for those who are struggling with relationships, depression/anxiety, and negative outlook. Primary focus is on the family system of origin. Trauma work within a community of equals is extremely nourishing and lasting. This model is based upon the work of Amanda Curtin LICSW of the Center for Change in Cambridge MA. 

 

 

Group 2 – 18 week Brief Trauma group for adults – non alcoholic parent qualifier. Same format as group 1 without ACOA influence. 5 out of 8 spots open. (5th installment)

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 The work addresses interpersonal intimacy, stabilization from triggers, education on trauma and dysfunctional family systems, core beliefs and the genogram experiential. The group is ideal for those who are struggling with relationships, depression/anxiety, and negative outlook. Primary focus is on the alcoholic family system of origin. Trauma work within a community of equals is extremely nourishing and lasting. This is not a general support group but rather a specific program for significant change for those who feel stuck. This model is based upon the work of Amanda Curtin LICSW of the Center for Change in Cambridge MA. 

 

 

 Group 3 – Men in Relationships Group- opened ended group aimed at addressing stuck places in relationships for men.  Open to all adult men.

Examples of covered symptoms and relationship dynamics: Starting relationships, balance between family life and work life, finding a life partner, parenting or co-parenting, defining masculinity, co-dependency, problems of intimacy (sexual or non), problems of emotional connection, problems of assertion (too little/too much) negative coping strategies, and conflict resolution.

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Free meeting consultation provided for all groups.

Details. Each 8 person group will start Feb/Mar 2016. $60 per session. Time and Day Thursdays TBA.

Contact and Location

Patrick Teahan LICSW

393 Massachusetts Avenue

Arlington, MA 02474

(617)-767-8281

pgt.licsw@gmail.com

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ACOA –Adult Children Of Alcohlics

Patrick Teahan LICSW is starting a new group for adults who grew up in an alcoholic family. The group is 18 weeks and an introduction to deep work regarding having childhood with alcoholic family members.

The work addresses interpersonal intimacy, stabilization from triggers, education on trauma and dysfunctional family systems, core beliefs and the genogram experiential. The group is ideal for those who are struggling with relationships, depression/anxiety, and negative outlook. Primary focus is on the alcoholic family system of origin. Trauma work within a community of equals is extremely nourishing and lasting. This is not a general support group but rather a specific program for significant change for those who feel stuck. This model is based upon the work of Amanda Curtin LICSW of the Center for Change in Cambridge MA.

If you are not familiar with symptoms of being an adult child of an alcoholic here are some examples:

 

  • Our relationships can be either overly dependent or under dependent.
  • We judge ourselves harshly and have sense of brokenness.
  • We can be highly reactive or numb/shut down.
  • We can overly feel for others or under feel for them.
  • We are averse to conflict and tend to control or avoid it or even over power.
  • We overly identify with bad behavior and can label ourselves as taking advantage when we don’t.
  • Our view of our peers is in the negative. We overly compare ourselves or minimize others.

 

Details. This closed 8 person group will start January 2016. $60 per session. Time and Day Thursdays TBA.

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Reiki I Seminar and Treatment
Weekend
Nov 21st and 22nd

I will be offering the Reiki I training weekend on 11/21 and 11/22Reiki-Principles-1-1.

The weekend consists of a two-day seminar, literature, education, and practicing Reiki in a community. Reiki in combination with psychotherapy treatment rapidly expands one’s ability to develop the skill of self-love, compassion, and insight into one’s own personal story and struggles. It promotes balance, detoxification, calming and activates the natural healing processes of the patient’s body and restores physical and emotional well- being. All members will be attuneded to the Reiki I Level for practice on self and others.

$150 per person.
393 Mass Ave
Arlington MA
02474

5 Reiki Principles
1: Just for today, I will not be angry
2: Just for today, I will not worry
3: Just for today, I will be grateful
4: Just for today, I will do my work honestly
5: Just for today, I will be kind to every living thing:

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Patrick Teahan LICSW is very please to announce the 4th formation of the Short Term Healing from Childhood Trauma Group. There are possibly 2 spots open for this group which starts approx late Oct early Nov 2015-Thursday afternoons.  This is an amazing opportunity in personal growth. It functions both as an education class on dysfunctional family systems and it’s impact on development which spills over into adult life term dysfunction. $50 per session – 18 weeks.

View More: http://jennymoloney.pass.us/teahan

This short term 18 week trauma model address intimacy, self stabilization from triggers, education, and core beliefs. The group is ideal for those who are struggling with relationships, depression/anxiety, and negative outlook. Primary focus is on the family system of origin. Trauma work within a community of equals is extremely nourishing and lasting. The group will cover: genogram, intimacy work, intimacy tools, deeper than self talk tools, relaxation, education on trauma and the brain, guided meditation and self care. This is not just a support group, not for drop in, has specific agenda. The primary goal is a new view of our early family life and shifts in deep feelings and stuck places. A free consultation/meeting is required.

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Inspired by a client’s discovery of a specific language around avoiding real intimacy, I want to point out these ideas. In my work as a childhood trauma group therapist, I tell my clients that the work (inner child work) is about #1 FINISHING BUSINESS WITH MOM AND DAD and #2 RECLAIMING INTIMACY.  Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, like most 12 step programs, has defined what it really means to be avoident of intimacy and not just pertaining to sex. Very enlightening reading.

“Patrick Carnes, the nationally known author on addiction and recovery, describes sexual anorexia as: “an obsessive state in which the physical, mental and emotional task of avoiding sex dominates one’s life.  Like self-starvation with food, deprivation with sex can make one feel powerful and defended against all hurts.””

Does anorexia tie in to your sex and love addiction? If so, how? Responses to a questionaire

I HIGHLY RECOMMEND purchasing this pamphlet/ questionnaire as the questions really create a road map to recovery if we are to be rigorously honest with ourselves.

http://store.slaafws.org/prod/PAM-007.html

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Patrick Teahan LICSW is very please to announce the 3rd formation of the Short Term Healing from Childhood Trauma Group. There are possibly 2-3 spots open for this group which starts approx late July/early Aug.

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This short term 16 week trauma model address intimacy, self stabilization from triggers, education, and core beliefs. The group is ideal for those who are struggling with relationships, depression/anxiety, and negative outlook. Primary focus is on the family system of origin. Trauma work within a community of equals is extremely nourishing and lasting. The group will cover: genogram, intimacy work, intimacy tools, deeper than self talk tools, relaxation, education on trauma and the brain, guided meditation and self care. This is not just a support group, not for drop in, has specific agenda. A free consultation/meeting is required.

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Developmental Trauma in Children:

Back to Basics of Comfort and Joy

Daniel Hughes, PhD

When children have been raised poorly, either due to marginal care because their parents were facing too many challenges of their own, or because of more severe abuse and neglect due to their parents’ demons becoming so overwhelming as to destroy theoverall structure and function of the family, these children need experiences that take them back to the basics of care. When we wonder about what is at the core of how human beings develop, it might be best to notice what experiences capable and committed parents provide for their infants. We might note those experiences and then notice the effects on young children who are not consistently provided with those experiences by their parents or other caregivers. The effects tend to be similar to—though possibly not as severe as—the “domains of impairment” that are characteristic of children who have experienced abuse and neglect. These children struggle with attachment along with core aspects of their physical, emotional, behavioral and cognitive development. They also tend to develop dissociative tendencies and to have difficulty establishing a coherent sense of self. The foundation of care for all children consists in providing them, again and again, with the experiences of comfort and joy. Comfort and joy offer children ways to remain open and engaged in the face of the wide range of affective experiences that are central to their comprehensive development.

Comfort is crucial if children are to successfully communicate their distress to their parents and meet with success in reducing it. Comfort enables them to stay regulated in the face of stressful events, receive the necessary help to manage it, and gradually begin to develop self-directed resources to handle stress on their own. Comfort enables children to remain engaged with difficult events without having to compulsively enter states of fight/flight/freeze. Through this ability to stay regulated and engaged, the child’s prefrontal cortex more fully develops and becomes integrated with more emotional/physiological focused regions of the brain, providing the child with sources of resilience, reflection, and intuitive problem-solving that he would not otherwise have. Comfort steadies the child with a sense of safety and resilience and then joy lifts the child into the upper limits of his full developmental potential. The reciprocal delight and laughter that so characterizes the parent and infant’s engagement when both are safe and engaged is central to the infant’s deepening interest in the social-emotional world. This interest leads the infant to make sense of incredibly complex realities of reciprocal communication, cooperation, all of the other features of his family, community, and larger culture. With joy, the infant is able to develop his or her emerging sense of self around the experiences that the infant is sharing with his attuned parents. Within joy, the infant’s experience of self, other and the world become organized around the infant’s parents’ experience of them.

Comfort and joy are “Plan A” for human development. However, when they are not present in a manner sufficient for the infant to actually develop, the infant then goes to “Plan B”, a path based on self-reliance long before having a ‘self’ that the infant is able to rely on.

With Plan B, the infant learns to suppress the desire for comfort and joy and to avoid all situations which might evoke such experiences. The infant is likely to learn to dissociate from his emotions or to become overwhelmed by emotional states that are not able to be regulated. Plan B involves the development of habitual vigilance and interaction strategies based on the need to control all aspects of the infant’s environment. Such strategies often include rage outbursts and manipulation, along with compulsive avoidance and reenactments.

The troubled child is not likely to embrace Plan A when the child finally has the opportunity to do so. Such a child does not trust adults and is not likely to accept the vulnerability inherent in being open to comfort and joy and only have it withdrawn once again. This child has learned to suppress such yearnings and may even intensify rigid defenses against them when they are evoked by caring therapists, teachers, or caregivers.

We must find ways to “whisper” to these children so that they begin—in tiny, tiny, steps—to trust again. To trust in that which was their birthright, denied to them at birth, and now offered to them after a long time of waiting and then not waiting: Comfort and Joy

http://www.danielhughes.org/

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