ACOA –Adult Children Of Alcohlics

Patrick Teahan LICSW is starting a new group for adults who grew up in an alcoholic family. The group is 18 weeks and an introduction to deep work regarding having childhood with alcoholic family members.

The work addresses interpersonal intimacy, stabilization from triggers, education on trauma and dysfunctional family systems, core beliefs and the genogram experiential. The group is ideal for those who are struggling with relationships, depression/anxiety, and negative outlook. Primary focus is on the alcoholic family system of origin. Trauma work within a community of equals is extremely nourishing and lasting. This is not a general support group but rather a specific program for significant change for those who feel stuck. This model is based upon the work of Amanda Curtin LICSW of the Center for Change in Cambridge MA.

If you are not familiar with symptoms of being an adult child of an alcoholic here are some examples:

 

  • Our relationships can be either overly dependent or under dependent.
  • We judge ourselves harshly and have sense of brokenness.
  • We can be highly reactive or numb/shut down.
  • We can overly feel for others or under feel for them.
  • We are averse to conflict and tend to control or avoid it or even over power.
  • We overly identify with bad behavior and can label ourselves as taking advantage when we don’t.
  • Our view of our peers is in the negative. We overly compare ourselves or minimize others.

 

Details. This closed 8 person group will start January 2016. $60 per session. Time and Day Thursdays TBA.

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Reiki I Seminar and Treatment
Weekend
Nov 21st and 22nd

I will be offering the Reiki I training weekend on 11/21 and 11/22Reiki-Principles-1-1.

The weekend consists of a two-day seminar, literature, education, and practicing Reiki in a community. Reiki in combination with psychotherapy treatment rapidly expands one’s ability to develop the skill of self-love, compassion, and insight into one’s own personal story and struggles. It promotes balance, detoxification, calming and activates the natural healing processes of the patient’s body and restores physical and emotional well- being. All members will be attuneded to the Reiki I Level for practice on self and others.

$150 per person.
393 Mass Ave
Arlington MA
02474

5 Reiki Principles
1: Just for today, I will not be angry
2: Just for today, I will not worry
3: Just for today, I will be grateful
4: Just for today, I will do my work honestly
5: Just for today, I will be kind to every living thing:

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Patrick Teahan LICSW is very please to announce the 4th formation of the Short Term Healing from Childhood Trauma Group. There are possibly 2 spots open for this group which starts approx late Oct early Nov 2015-Thursday afternoons.  This is an amazing opportunity in personal growth. It functions both as an education class on dysfunctional family systems and it’s impact on development which spills over into adult life term dysfunction. $50 per session – 18 weeks.

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This short term 18 week trauma model address intimacy, self stabilization from triggers, education, and core beliefs. The group is ideal for those who are struggling with relationships, depression/anxiety, and negative outlook. Primary focus is on the family system of origin. Trauma work within a community of equals is extremely nourishing and lasting. The group will cover: genogram, intimacy work, intimacy tools, deeper than self talk tools, relaxation, education on trauma and the brain, guided meditation and self care. This is not just a support group, not for drop in, has specific agenda. The primary goal is a new view of our early family life and shifts in deep feelings and stuck places. A free consultation/meeting is required.

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Inspired by a client’s discovery of a specific language around avoiding real intimacy, I want to point out these ideas. In my work as a childhood trauma group therapist, I tell my clients that the work (inner child work) is about #1 FINISHING BUSINESS WITH MOM AND DAD and #2 RECLAIMING INTIMACY.  Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, like most 12 step programs, has defined what it really means to be avoident of intimacy and not just pertaining to sex. Very enlightening reading.

“Patrick Carnes, the nationally known author on addiction and recovery, describes sexual anorexia as: “an obsessive state in which the physical, mental and emotional task of avoiding sex dominates one’s life.  Like self-starvation with food, deprivation with sex can make one feel powerful and defended against all hurts.””

Does anorexia tie in to your sex and love addiction? If so, how? Responses to a questionaire

I HIGHLY RECOMMEND purchasing this pamphlet/ questionnaire as the questions really create a road map to recovery if we are to be rigorously honest with ourselves.

http://store.slaafws.org/prod/PAM-007.html

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Patrick Teahan LICSW is very please to announce the 3rd formation of the Short Term Healing from Childhood Trauma Group. There are possibly 2-3 spots open for this group which starts approx late July/early Aug.

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This short term 16 week trauma model address intimacy, self stabilization from triggers, education, and core beliefs. The group is ideal for those who are struggling with relationships, depression/anxiety, and negative outlook. Primary focus is on the family system of origin. Trauma work within a community of equals is extremely nourishing and lasting. The group will cover: genogram, intimacy work, intimacy tools, deeper than self talk tools, relaxation, education on trauma and the brain, guided meditation and self care. This is not just a support group, not for drop in, has specific agenda. A free consultation/meeting is required.

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Developmental Trauma in Children:

Back to Basics of Comfort and Joy

Daniel Hughes, PhD

When children have been raised poorly, either due to marginal care because their parents were facing too many challenges of their own, or because of more severe abuse and neglect due to their parents’ demons becoming so overwhelming as to destroy theoverall structure and function of the family, these children need experiences that take them back to the basics of care. When we wonder about what is at the core of how human beings develop, it might be best to notice what experiences capable and committed parents provide for their infants. We might note those experiences and then notice the effects on young children who are not consistently provided with those experiences by their parents or other caregivers. The effects tend to be similar to—though possibly not as severe as—the “domains of impairment” that are characteristic of children who have experienced abuse and neglect. These children struggle with attachment along with core aspects of their physical, emotional, behavioral and cognitive development. They also tend to develop dissociative tendencies and to have difficulty establishing a coherent sense of self. The foundation of care for all children consists in providing them, again and again, with the experiences of comfort and joy. Comfort and joy offer children ways to remain open and engaged in the face of the wide range of affective experiences that are central to their comprehensive development.

Comfort is crucial if children are to successfully communicate their distress to their parents and meet with success in reducing it. Comfort enables them to stay regulated in the face of stressful events, receive the necessary help to manage it, and gradually begin to develop self-directed resources to handle stress on their own. Comfort enables children to remain engaged with difficult events without having to compulsively enter states of fight/flight/freeze. Through this ability to stay regulated and engaged, the child’s prefrontal cortex more fully develops and becomes integrated with more emotional/physiological focused regions of the brain, providing the child with sources of resilience, reflection, and intuitive problem-solving that he would not otherwise have. Comfort steadies the child with a sense of safety and resilience and then joy lifts the child into the upper limits of his full developmental potential. The reciprocal delight and laughter that so characterizes the parent and infant’s engagement when both are safe and engaged is central to the infant’s deepening interest in the social-emotional world. This interest leads the infant to make sense of incredibly complex realities of reciprocal communication, cooperation, all of the other features of his family, community, and larger culture. With joy, the infant is able to develop his or her emerging sense of self around the experiences that the infant is sharing with his attuned parents. Within joy, the infant’s experience of self, other and the world become organized around the infant’s parents’ experience of them.

Comfort and joy are “Plan A” for human development. However, when they are not present in a manner sufficient for the infant to actually develop, the infant then goes to “Plan B”, a path based on self-reliance long before having a ‘self’ that the infant is able to rely on.

With Plan B, the infant learns to suppress the desire for comfort and joy and to avoid all situations which might evoke such experiences. The infant is likely to learn to dissociate from his emotions or to become overwhelmed by emotional states that are not able to be regulated. Plan B involves the development of habitual vigilance and interaction strategies based on the need to control all aspects of the infant’s environment. Such strategies often include rage outbursts and manipulation, along with compulsive avoidance and reenactments.

The troubled child is not likely to embrace Plan A when the child finally has the opportunity to do so. Such a child does not trust adults and is not likely to accept the vulnerability inherent in being open to comfort and joy and only have it withdrawn once again. This child has learned to suppress such yearnings and may even intensify rigid defenses against them when they are evoked by caring therapists, teachers, or caregivers.

We must find ways to “whisper” to these children so that they begin—in tiny, tiny, steps—to trust again. To trust in that which was their birthright, denied to them at birth, and now offered to them after a long time of waiting and then not waiting: Comfort and Joy

http://www.danielhughes.org/

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I am excited to announce that the 2nd Brief Introductory Childhood Trauma Group is forming. Currently the 1st is underway and closed. Currently there are 4 spots available for this 4 month brief model.

This short term (4 month) trauma model address intimacy, self stabilization from triggers, education, and core beliefs. The group is ideal for those who are struggling with relationships, negative coping strategies, depression/anxiety, and negative outlook. Primary focus is on the family system of origin. Trauma work within a community of equals is extremely nourishing and effective. The group will cover: genogram, brief intimacy work, intimacy tools, deeper than self talk tools, relaxation, psycho-education on trauma and the brain, guided meditation, self care and resources.

A free in person consultation is done before admission to the group to make sure group is for you.

Details- Thursday or Friday-  $50 per session. Exact day/time TBD. Will most likely be late afternoon or early am. 4 of 8 Spots are open.

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I am excited to announce a brief model of the trauma work developed by Amanda Curtin. This addition is ideal for individuals who are perhaps new to PTSD treatment and or are seeking exploration. This is also a great resource for developing a path to deeper recovery.

This short term (4 month) trauma model address intimacy, self stabilization from triggers, education, and core beliefs. The group is ideal for those who are struggling with relationships, negative coping strategies, depression/anxiety, and negative outlook. Primary focus is on the family system of origin. Trauma work within a community of equals is extremely nourishing and effective. The group will cover: genogram, brief intimacy work, intimacy tools, deeper than self talk tools, relaxation, psycho-education on trauma and the brain, guided meditation, self care and resources.

A free in person consultation is done before admission to the group to make sure group is for you.

Details- Thursday or Friday-  $50 per session. Exact day/time TBD. Will most likely be late afternoon. 4 of 8 Spots are open.

“That I feed the hungry, forgive an insult, and love my enemy…. these are great virtues.
But what if I should discover that the poorest of the beggars and the most impudent of offenders are all within me, and that I stand in need of the alms of my own kindness; that I myself am the enemy who must be loved?  What then?”

Carl Jung (1875 – 1961)

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I am excited to announce a brief model of the trauma work developed by Amanda Curtin. This addition is ideal for individuals who are perhaps new to PTSD treatment and or are seeking exploration. This is also a great resource for developing a path to deeper recovery.

This short term (3-4 month) trauma model address intimacy, self stabilization from triggers, education, and core beliefs. The group is ideal for those who are struggling with relationships, negative coping strategies, depression/anxiety, and negative outlook. Primary focus is on the family system of origin. Trauma work within a community of equals is extremely nourishing and effective. The group will cover: genogram, brief intimacy work, intimacy tools, deeper than self talk tools, relaxation, psycho-education on trauma and the brain, guided meditation, self care and resources.

A free in person consultation is done before admission to the group to make sure group is for you.

Details- Thursday and Friday-  $50 per session. Exact day/time TBD.

“That I feed the hungry, forgive an insult, and love my enemy…. these are great virtues.
But what if I should discover that the poorest of the beggars and the most impudent of offenders are all within me, and that I stand in need of the alms of my own kindness; that I myself am the enemy who must be loved?  What then?”

Carl Jung (1875 – 1961)

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